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Believe in the Ability

Believe in the ability. I love that quote.
What it means to me is to just believe that something is possible or capable. Not a guarantee that something will be done, but the ability is there.
I found this quote to be comforting in times of high anxiety, stress, and fearful / what if thought.

This new notion did not require me to have conviction, that I could handle these situations, but the ability is there. All I needed to do was have faith. This was much easier for me to grasp in some of my darker days, because I didn’t think I could get through anything.

Anything is possible. Just believe in the/a ability.


Emotions and their Influence

Understanding how your emotions influence your actions can ensure that you are always cognizant of why you make your choices. When you let your feelings drive you without knowing where they may lead you, the life you end up creating may be vastly different from the one you dreamed of. Recognizing the power our emotions can hold over us allows you to choose whether to follow their lead or to seek counsel from our rational mind first. Our emotions are meant to serve us, rather than be served by us. When you understand how your feelings may be driving you to express yourself today, you’ll be able to harness your emotions to help you further your cause, not hinder it.


I have shared some of why I love the breathing track so much, and how its changed my life more than I could imagine, but evidently, others have noticed too.

Yesterday my boyfriend and his mother were talking, and said I seem the happiest and most peaceful I have been in my whole life. The reason I think the breathing track is so effective is it touches my core issues. I spent time in 12 step programs, CBT, therapy and other groups. I feel the focus of these were on the symptoms, why I drank or why I had severe GAD. The track deals with the cause. It heals parts of me that nothing else worked for. No person, kind words or behavoral change worked as profoundly as the track. The acceptance and surrender practiced with the breathing track, touches all other parts of my life. I can let things flow, and in turn since I am not trying to control every detail through fear, things are falling into place better than ever imagined.

I also find I have immense gratitude for the little things, I went food shopping last night, and loved it. The fact that I get to go food shopping. This is no longer an anxiety riddled chore. Its enjoyable.

Oh one other thing – I always considered myself an impatient person. Well, Marty & I were talking today and impatience is the symptom. The cause is doubt and fear. That if something is left alone for a certain amount of time, something bad will happen (like my childhood) these realizations are so comforting. I thought relinquishing control was terrifiying, and in fact it is reassuring to the fact that I am not and never was ‘crazy’. Thanks for reading!

C PTSD - A Way Out

I have shared some of why I love the breathing track so much, and how its changed my life more than I could imagine, but evidently, others have noticed too.

Yesterday my boyfriend and his mother were talking, and said I seem the happiest and most peaceful I have been in my whole life. The reason I think the breathing track is so effective is it touches my core issues. I spent time in 12 step programs, CBT, therapy and other groups. I feel the focus of these were on the symptoms, why I drank or why I had severe GAD. The track deals with the cause. It heals parts of me that nothing else worked for. No person, kind words or behavoral change worked as profoundly as the track. The acceptance and surrender practiced with the breathing track, touches all other parts of my life. I can let things…

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Daily Om: Stronger than you know

Often we get anxiety for no reason as we are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be.

Our capacity to cope successfully with life’s challenges far outstrips our capacity to feel nervousness. Yet in the weeks, days, and hours leading up to an event that we believe will test our limits, we can become nervous. While we may have previously regarded ourselves as equal to the trials that lie ahead, we reach a point at which they near and our anxiety begins to mount. We then become increasingly worked up, until the moment of truth arrives and we discover that our worry was all for nothing. We are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. But anxiety is not rational in nature, which means that in most cases we cannot work through it using logic as our only tool. Reason can help us recognize the relative futility of unwarranted worry but, more often than not, we will find more comfort in patterns of thought and activity that redirect our attention to practical or engaging matters.
Most of us find it remarkably difficult to focus on two distinct thoughts or emotions at once, and we can use this natural human limitation to our advantage when trying to stay centered in the period leading up to a potentially tricky experience. When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry—such as deep breathing, visualizations of success, or aerobic exercise—anxiety dissipates naturally. Mindfulness is also useful as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment. Our guides can aid us by providing us with a focal point wholly outside of our own sphere.
The intense emotional flare-up you experience just before you are set to challenge yourself is often a mixture of both excitement and fear. When you take steps to eliminate the fear, you can more fully enjoy the excitement. Though you may find it difficult to avoid getting worked up, your awareness of the forces acting on your feelings will help you return to your center and accept that few hurdles you will face will be as high as they at first appear.


Daily Om: Free from Agendas

A desire for validation could lead you to want to be recognized by your loved ones. You may find yourself feeling vulnerable and insecure, however, if your neediness causes others to shy away from you. Instead of seeking more recognition and support from others, consider developing your confidence by setting attainable goals and regularly affirming your worth. Crafting a well-developed personal identity and nurturing your confident nature could help you feel more secure in your own uniqueness. Acknowledgment will come naturally when you are at peace with yourself and feel secure in your worth as a person.
Finding validation within you rather than looking for approval from others leaves you free to enjoy the people you care about without the feelings of neediness interfering. When others feel that your desire for acknowledgement is more important to you than building a strong bond between you, they can be driven away. By building a strong sense of self-worth on your own, your relationships can be about creating intimacy rather than building your self-esteem. It is when we least need approval that we effortlessly receive it from people. Together, you can build a relationship that is free of overwhelming ego needs and fulfills you both. A strong sense of self may be all you need today to attract the positive attention of the people you care about.


Daily OM: Thoughts

Thoughts The Creation Ground of Experience

 

During the day we can monitor our thoughts to see if we are investing our energy where it isn’t useful.
Our thoughts are powerful forces in the creation of our experience of life. You may be able to recall a time when frustration that was based on a misunderstanding completely evaporated when your understanding changed. This is because our interpretation defines our experience, and it can change in an instant. Our only true reality is the present moment, so rather than merely accepting that life is happening to us, we can harness the power of our thoughts to actively create a positive reality. For example, we can choose to appreciate beauty around us rather than focusing on traffic or look for admirable qualities in the people we deal with rather than focusing on the negative. By choosing how to interpret and define each moment with your thoughts, you truly create your reality.
Throughout the day, we can monitor our thoughts to catch ourselves in the middle of investing our energy elsewhere—such as into belief in limitations—and instead pull our focus back to the infinite possibilities of the present. Taking a deep breath will help us center our thoughts on being in our bodies right now. Regular meditation allows us to gain mastery over our minds so that we can still our thoughts to focus on the pureness of being. If we mentally dwell on the past or the future, we may miss the experience of living in the present moment. Setting and visualizing goals is wonderful, but we can bring our thoughts into our current experience by taking steps to create them now.
Our minds are powerful tools that we can harness to create our reality. Through them we move the unformed energy of the universe into form, which gives us direction for our words and actions. Each thought is like a stone dropped into a lake, sending ripples out into our world to affect all they touch. We can choose our focus and how we invest our energy, which gives us the power to design our lives to be whatever we choose in each and every moment.


From: The Language of letting go

“How much do we need to let go of?” a friend asked one day.
“I’m not certain,” I replied, “but maybe everything.”
Letting go is a spiritual, emotional, mental and physical process, a sometimes mysterious metaphysical process of releasing to God and the Universe that which we are clinging to so tightly.
We let go of our grasp on people, outcomes, ideas, feelings, wants, needs, desires – everything. We let go of trying to control       our progress in recovery. Yes, it’s important to acknowledge and accept what we want and what we want to happen. But it’s equally important to follow through by letting go.
Letting go is the action part of faith. It is a behavior that gives God and the Universe permission to send us what we’re meant to have. Letting go means we acknowledge that hanging on so tightly isn’t helping to solve the problem, change the person or get the outcome we desire.  t isn’t helping us. In fact, we learn that hanging on often blocks us from getting what we want and need.
Who are we to say that things aren’t happening exactly as they need to happen?
There is magic in letting go. Sometimes we get what we want soon after we let go. Sometimes it takes longer. Sometimes the specific outcome we desire doesn’t happen. Something better does.
Letting go sets us free and connects us to our Source.
Letting go creates the optimum environment for the best possible outcomes and solutions.
Today, I will relax. I will let go of that which is upsetting me the most. I will trust that by letting go. I have started the wheels in motion for things to work out in the best possible way.