My father is a Vietnam veteran. I did not find out what that really meant until December 31st, 2006; when my life changed, forever. My father and I were not the closest throughout my childhood, and…
I just realized I have not made a post in a long time!
Meet Badger, the Australian Shepherd. He was born on 3/3/12, and I met/fell in love with him two weeks later. He is the best friend I could ever ask for. The most fun, loving part of my life! He is more than a pet, he is family. I refer to him as my son.
When I have a day that is not so great, he is always there for me. With the biggest smile on his face! My Fiance and I have a love for drag racing, and Badger has been going to the track with us since he was 8 weeks old, he loves it 🙂
He is a perfect addition to our family & I do not know what I would do without him!
I have had a couple dogs in my lifetime, but none compare to Badger.
Very well put for meditation or just simply being present.
We should always remember that meditation is the cultivation and practice of nonattachment….Mindfulness is nothing but the middle way. It is neither an intense practice, nor can it be done without effort. It must be done with balance. Properly done, it is neither detached pushing away nor egoistic clinging. Be very careful about sitting down with ideas like, “I am sitting, I am watching, I am breathing, I am meditating, I am this, that is mine”.
Wow, can I attest to this 🙂
As I go through all kinds of feelings and experiences in my journey through life — delight, surprise, chagrin, dismay — I hold this question as a guiding light: “What do I really need right now to be happy?” What I come to over and over again is that only qualities as vast and deep as love, connection, and kindness will really make me happy in any sort of enduring way.
It’s a wonderful feeling to realize you are finally on the right track. When you find a counselor who recognizes that your depression and anxiety, your quirky personality traits, and possibly your chronic illnesses are most likely holdovers from your abusive, traumatic childhood (which really was abusive and traumatic – you had a suspicion, but you just weren’t sure because as far as you knew your childhood was perfectly typical). When you attend group therapy sessions on learning to deal with stress and you listen to other people’s stories and they sound just like you. Here are people who understand because they’ve been there. And you want so much to rush across the circle and hug them and cry together because you know; you know.
It is a similar feeling when you finally start reading some of those books that have been on your Amazon queue forever…
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Old one from the archives I’ve updated:
I was unable to locate an owner of this cartoon. I do not own it and do not know it’s copyright status. I’m printing it in good faith because the message is so important. I found it here on Facebook, but the guy who posted it doesn’t have an open mailbox and I don’t know if he owns it either.
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The way out of our cage begins with accepting absolutely everything we are feeling about ourselves and our lives, by embracing with wakefulness and care our moment-to-moment experience. By accepting absolutely everything, what I mean is that we are aware of what is happening within our body and mind in any given moment, without trying to control or judge or pull away. I do not mean that we are putting up with harmful behavior—our own or another’s. Nor do I mean that we are confirming the truth of a negative belief, such as “I am a loser.”
Rather, this is an inner process of accepting our actual, present-moment experience. It means feeling sorrow and pain without resisting. It means feeling desire or dislike for someone or something without judging ourselves for the feeling or being driven to act on it. — Tara Brach (read the rest here)
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This article is incredible. Taken from: http://garretkramer.com
Can your behavior become habitual? Yes. Can a habitual behavior originate from your past? Definitely. If you are struggling now, should you look to your past as the reason why you feel the way you feel, and for the cure? In my opinion, not for a second.
Indeed, the self-help world strongly disagrees. Virtually all therapists, life coaches, and counselors believe, and have been trained to believe, that conquering former traumas is the key to overcoming current difficulties. One famous self-help professional recently insisted, “The key to finding the truth is to go back to the past, to those haunting times, and resolving former traumas.” Oh boy, where do I begin?
Let’s try simplicity. If people delve into their past in order to explain or fix their current troubles, then they seek answers in the same misinformation that created the troubles in the first place. Or as Sydney Banks once said, “Going back to a troubled past is like putting your hand in a burning fire, pulling it out because it hurt, and then saying, ‘I think I’ll put my hand back in again’.”
The past no longer exists. Why do so many of us look to the past to explain our present troubles?
In short, the past is merely a memory carried through time, a thought. And like all thoughts, the past is not real. So if you attempt to solve your problems in this illusion, you’ll pretty much spin your wheels. As a personal example, for years I couldn’t figure out why at times I lamented my childhood, poor me; yet at other times, I relished it, lucky me. Same childhood, so why did I look at it in such dissimilar ways?
Then, one day I realized that my perception of my past was solely the result of the quality of my thinking and state of mind—which are always changing. Thus, it made no sense to look to my childhood as a concrete circumstance that had the ability to bring me down.
In other words, if I thought about my past one day and it made me miserable, and I thought about my past another day and it made me smile, it had to be something inside of me (my thinking) that was causing my despair or happiness. The past had nothing to do with it.
Your perception of your past is always changing. When you feel down, your past is problematic. When you feel up, your past makes sense.
Now, to be fair, I’m not saying that there are never times when a therapist takes a client back to a former ordeal and the client then finds clarity and feels more at ease. What I’m saying is that when this happens, going back to the past is not the reason. If the client’s thought system and level of consciousness are on the upswing at that moment, he or she will find tranquility no matter what the therapist suggests.
Here’s the bottom line about the past: If it had the ability to lead people to despair, then different individuals who experienced the same traumas would all be suffering now. Plus, your past misfortunes would affect you in the same way at all times. Of course, neither is the case.
To me, the self-help world needs to consider the negative impact of taking a person back to former low states of mind. It energizes and perpetuates suffering. Instead, let’s teach people that they perceive the past from the inside out; that the quality of their thinking and state of mind in the moment create all of their perceptions, including their perceptions of the past. Remember, challenging thoughts about your own life history will occur, but you don’t have to do anything about them—they are illusions—left alone they’ll wither away in no time.
We perceive the world in a particular way and confidently expect it to conform to its appearance. But we fail to recognize that certain aspects of the ‘reality’ that appear to us are nothing but figments of our own imagination. In this confusion a conflict ensues between the world as it is and the world as we believe it to be. And the more we insist on our infallibility, the more frustrated we become as the actual world again and again stubbornly refuses to live up to our expectations. ~ Stephen Batchelor from Alone with Others: An Existential Approach to Buddhism